If the settings on e Harmony confuse you at all – contact customer care and they will happily help out.
Does a guy really need to be 4 inches taller than you? Are there other areas you could compromise on a bit?
"It sounds so simple, but you'd be amazed at how many guys say they want to look tough and don't want to smile. "You could even practice smiling in a mirror before you take a picture." Looking into the camera is important as well.
Just like in real life, a fellow online dater is more likely to engage with you when you're making direct eye contact.
Too many women sit back and wait for a guy to initiate communication.